Saturday, August 11, 2007

Ten Things


Chani at Thailand Gal has tagged me to tell ten things I like about myself.

In her words: "You are such a clear-thinker and such a faithful friend. There is no way in the world I will ever be able to really thank you for that. With your quick wit and obvious intelligence, you are a teacher for me. All the time. I would also like to hear ten things you like about yourself. I want to know if they match the things I like about you. :)"

Thank you, Chani. What you've said about me is so very generous and kind. I really appreciate it, and also that I am now forced to consider myself in a more positive way than usual. Normally, I chastise myself for my failings, as I was taught that blowing ones own horn was immodest. Perhaps some balance is needed after all.


1. I like my sense of humor, which is often quirky. I probably enjoy it more than anyone else, which doesn't bother me in the least. I have a great capacity to entertain myself, although sometimes I do so in inappropriate places.

2. I like that I have no prejudices. My life would be considerably smaller and poorer if all my friends came from similar backgrounds and were just like me. It would be unimaginably stagnant and boring, and none of us would ever learn anything new. I could not live like that.

3. I have always defended underdogs, and I am generally compassionate (with a few notable exceptions.)

4. I understand and relate to animals well, perhaps because I am not caught up in the human dominance and superiority fallacy.

5. I like that I have a great deal of intellectual curiosity about nearly everything.

6. I appreciate my creative ability. I am artistic, I cook well, and am able to make a charming home out of anyplace I live.

7. I am comfortable with people from all walks of life. I feel eye to eye with everyone, regardless of our respective status, and I look for qualities of spirit in those I like and love.

8. I am loyal, supportive and nurturing. Plants, animals and children grow magnificently for me.

9. I have an excellent memory which is both photographic and phonographic. I can remember nearly every moment of my life, entire conversations, everything. This extremely fortunate party trick was most helpful in school and enabled me to get by with little effort.

10. I am strong. I have had a lot of trauma in my life but I am still here, and not diminished by it. I have come to believe that adversity has made me even stronger, and I know it has given me more confidence in myself.

Bonus: I like that I'm tall. Also deluded.

Now it's my turn to choose five of my blog friends to tell ten things they like about themselves.

1. Liz at Los Angelista's Guide to The Pursuit Of Happiness

I love her fine mind and great honesty, her personal beauty.

2. Maht at The Moon Topples

I love his creativity and generosity, the way he supports other writers.

3. Kevin at Kevin Charnas

I love his impish sense of humor, which cannot hide his intellect and decency.

4. Voyager at Spindrift and Dreams

I love her indomitable spirit, her personal strength and dignity.

5. Odat at Odat's Mumblings

I love her sense of fun and her quirky charm which brightens the blogosphere for so many.

The torch is passed. You're all amazing, and I eagerly await reading your lists.

57 comments:

meno said...

I love reading these lists from everyone. It's all so affirming.

You did a beautiful job. I like you better, if that is possible.

Odat said...

Wow...you did that so well...Thanks for the tag...it'll make me look deep within...something I don't like doing, but is probably necessary right at this moment!!!
Peace

JR's Thumbprints said...

Remember those LIFE cereal commercials? "Let's get Mikey..."

flip said...

I've known Susy for going on sixteen years, and she can still make laugh, can still make me think, and still make me fall in love with her again and again.

She is the love and light of my life.

Liz said...

I loved reading your list of things you like about yourself. Can I borrow your memory for awhile? And what an incredibly nice thing for you to say about me. I wish I could just cut and paste what you wrote ten times because it's sometimes hard for me to come up with stuff I like about myself!

eastcoastdweller said...

That painting ... that's that fellow who went to Tahiti, isn't it? Paul something-or-other.

It was fun to read all those facts about You. If You can't share a few of the things that make You special with friends, who can You share them with?

I agree with Meno. Your list helps me to like You even more!

thailandchani said...

Wow! This even got Flip to come out and leave a comment! :)

Love your list! There are a few more I could add.. but in the interest of not overwhelming your comments section, I'll hold back. :)

Thanks for going along...


Peace,

~Chani

mcewen said...

Thank you. I enjoyed that.
Best wishes

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Meno,

I've only seen Chani's laundry list, but the process IS affirming. We can all stand to look at ourselves with new eyes.

Odat,

It should be easy for you. There is so much to like about you.

Jr,

"Let's get Mikey... he'll eat it. He'll eat anything."

I'm not sure I get your point, but I'd like to. Please explain.

Flip,

You make me blush. You should really comment here more often.

xoxo

Liz,

I didn't think I could come up with ten, but realized while doing this that I've always taken these things for granted.

Eastcoaster,

Yes! Paul Gauguin. This is one of my favorite paintings.

Chani,

Thank you for forcing a bit of self-exploration. I like me better too, now. (Kind of.)

Mcewen,

I'm going to track down other such lists, as this meme is new to me.

Wanderlust Scarlett said...

I like all of these things about you too. Good list.


Scarlett & V.

Josie said...

Hearts, you know, all ten of those things come through in your writing, so there is nothing new here. I already knew all those things about you. Well, except about the tall part... :-) Your blog is by far one of the best in the blogosphere, and I like that you don't enter 'blogging' contests, or feel that you have to otherwise promote yourself. You have let people find you just for your wonderful writing.

Cheers,
Josie

Open Grove Claudia said...

A photographic and pornographic memory?? You must have to ban television and movies or live with the consequences in your head! I love learning more about you!

Pendullum said...

Beautiful, beautiful list...

Voyager said...

Your "10 things" come out in your personality, which comes out in your writing. Which is why I love reading your blog.
Thanks for the kind words (I'm blushing) and the tag. I agree, writing about your good points is an unusual and uncomfortable excercise. I'll try to do it with the honesty and grace you did.
V.

urban-urchin said...

I'm with meno- i like you even more now and am that much more excited that i get to meet you next week! hooray!

riseoutofme said...

Do you know the song "If you knew Susie like I know Susie"?

GO ON, SING IT.

Great list ... marvelous portrait ...

Sienna said...

This is so beautiful a concept, we do need to tell ourselves such thoughts...and appreciate ourselves more, and it isn't that easy to do, you have done so well Hearts, a fine example for all of us..

Beautiful qualities...and yes you do stand tall...I aspire to have and develop these qualities...am a work in progress :)

Just love it all, top stuff mate.

Pam

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Scarlett,

I especially like the part about being tall.

Josie,

I didn't know there were blogging contests. Is that like what dogs do on trees to see who can reach highest?

Claudia,

Now if I had a pornographic memory, I'd really have that extra something.

Pendullum,

A compliment from you is always a treasure.

Voyager,

Honesty and grace are two of the many qualities in which you excel. I look forward to reading your list.

Urchin,

I'm excited about it, too. I have your dates in the Bay area on my calendar and hope to see you on one of them.

Riseout,

Al Jolson. When I was a child, I was sure he was singing about me.

Pam,

If I sound good on paper, it's because I've been taking lessons from you for awhile. Really.

And you're right. Most of us don't appreciate ourselves enough, so this meme, which I dreaded doing, turned out to be like a big hug for myself.

Jocelyn said...

What a lovely meme, both in its purpose and in your responses.

You know, we all gather images/profiles of those we read and who read our blogs, and I do know, even just based on your comments on my blog (and not just what you put out here in your blog), that you are one of the most astute and intuitive readers and thinkers I've seen lurching around here in the blogosphere.

Add that to your list.

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heartinsanfrancisco said...

Jocelyn,

I will, thanks.

I am a very good lurcher.

Okay?

witnessing am i said...

What a wonderful glimpse into a wonderful person.

It is nice to read a list of things like this and shake your head in agreement and think, yeah, yeah, all those things are so true, so evident in her writing. In addition to all those things you list, you seem very earnest -- to yourself. The things you see in yourself, the things you like, we too see in you, and like.

You even seem tall.

CS said...

That's funny, I was just reading through the comments, and I originally had mis-read it as pornogrpahic memory, too! Wonderful list, and so god to be able to just know what's good about you.

Craze said...

Very interesting. I'm also a supporter of the underdog, probably to a fault. I WISH I had a photographic memory. I'm lucky if I remember last week.

furiousBall said...

You definitely are a very supportive friend, I can see that nurturitudeness

heartinsanfrancisco said...

David,

Ohhhh, you said I'm tall. I've been waiting forever for someone to notice that.

Cs,

PORNographic memory, uh, no. It's really not my thing. The only porn movie I ever saw was "Deep Throat" and it reminded me of pistons and cylinders. Mechanical. No affection.

Craze,

You came back! Nice to see you again.

A great memory isn't all it's cracked up to be because it isn't selective.

Furious,

Nurturitudeness. Love it!

The Moon Topples said...

I have discharged the task you set before me. Felt a little like one of the ones Hercules had to do. Excruciating, but probably worth it. Thanks for the challenge, and for phrasing your tag so incredibly nicely. You're all class, lady.

Anyway, come by and see it if you like. Nowhere near as good as yours, but...

Ian Lidster said...

I like and admire you even more after reading this, and since I already liked you a lot, you have only gained. I like your choices, too.
Ian

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Moon,

You did a great job! I knew yours would be interesting if I could get you to do it.

Thank you for playing the game.

Ian,

My choices are varied and all quite wonderful, are they not? I'm so glad you agree.

The CEO said...

For the record, it is noted that you're tall. Now on to the important things. What a magnificent post.

liv said...

You pulled that off marvelously. Somehow, it can seem daunting to find the good. Good for you, great for us.

velvet said...

What a fantastic list. :)

It's funny how we spend our lives analyzing our faults while we spend only a minor fraction of the time figuring out what is good about ourselves. I can only imagine how much the general societal well-being would increase if we actually all felt good about ourselves for a change.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Monty,

But it IS important that I'm tall. I would even venture to say, VERY tall.

I'm glad we cleared that up.

Liv,

Doing this exercise is kind of like going counter-clockwise... it really does not come naturally. I felt kind of silly afterward, which is probably a sign that I needed to do it.

Perhaps we all do, now and then.

Velvet,

I think we do treat each other better when we feel good about ourselves.

My parents were so afraid that I would become "conceited" that they instilled a deep sense of inferiority in me, which was probably normal for my generation.

I have always believed that those who know their own worth are able to accomplish more and enjoy their lives more.

Wanderlust Scarlett said...

Ok... now I'm jealous.

I'm only 5'5" and a HALF.

I have issues with my lack of height.

Tall shoes...


Scarlett & V.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Scarlett,

You didn't see the "deluded" part, did you?

thethinker said...

I really liked reading that list. I can't imagine having to think up ten different things.

My Reflecting Pool said...

You are so well written and sincere in your writings that I am drawn to read you. I enjoyed reading your positives and knowing there is someone as good as you are around. Careful, any more of these and I might promote you to sainthood.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Thinker,

It really wasn't easy. I spend a lot more energy bemoaning my many faults, but I wasn't asked for those, thankfully.

Reflective,

I have always wanted to be a saint, even as I knew there wasn't a chance in hell that would happen.

Liz said...

Alright dear Heart, I have created my list earlier today. It was challenging but I'm so glad I did it. Thank you for tagging me.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Liz,

Your list is great, if not very surprising. I already knew you were wonderful, and I appreciate your doing this most difficult exercise and passing it on.

I can't wait to read the people you've tagged.

MsLittlePea said...

Loved it. We have a lot in common.

minijonb said...

love this post!

i also defend and root for the underdog. it's in my blood.

Anvilcloud said...

I have an excellent memory which is both photographic and phonographic.

That impresses me so much. It's amazing, however, how many bright people remember so little. I have to do this meme too.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Sweet Pea,

I know. The fact that we're both tall is the least of it.

Minijon,

It's a rough job but somebody's got to do it.

Anvil,

I don't believe that memory is tied in with intelligence. It's probably more along the lines of a talent, like being able to paint.

Thank you for visiting me.

Kevin Charnas said...

I happen to really like your ass.

I'm sorry that I'm so slow on the take over here, work has been bitch-slapping left and right. Luckily I'm wearing assless chaps.

You are too kind to me. I promise to get right on it.

And I like you for many reasons, many included here. And I ALWAYS look forward to reading your comments on my site, because I KNOW that you're always going to hit the mark. And this last time was no different. So, thank you for that as well.

With encouragement from you, I've done nothing in regards to that idiot neighbor of mine, and won't. I'm going to pretend that her and her scabies aren't there. No matter how much she scratches.

Smooches to you, Hearts. We're all better off with you in this world. And I'm not kidding.

Yours,
Kevin

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Kevin!

I like my ass, too, but didn't want to make a big deal (um) out of it.

We have the same neighbor, a skanky crack whore pacing wood floors in dominatrix shoes, but no dog. At least, not the four-legged kind.

I am losing it a bit more every day.

Tip: Spraying doorknobs with Ozium doesn't help nearly as much as you might think.

I can't wait to read your list.

Love you!

jali said...

Your list is wonderful, but flip's comment is the best thng on this page. OMG - what a sweetheart!

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Jali,

I have missed you so much! It's great to see you back again.

I hope you're feeling well and are completely healed now.

And yes, Flip is very special. Thanks for noticing. :)

xoxo

Jay said...

Now this is maybe the only meme i've ever seen worth repeating - we should all be able to list the things we love about ourselves... although, at first I read that your memory was pornographic, and I was like: dude!

Judith said...

That was an impressive read and one that you should be proud of Im with Meno I like you more and I didnt think it possible

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Jay,

Apparently that was a common misconception. (Um.) I feel so inadequate now, even deprived, no pornographic memories at all.

Judith,

Wow! Thank you so much! It seemed utterly daunting to come up with TEN THINGS I liked about myself, but I rallied.

I still feel kind of funny about it, but it's a great exercise which could benefit most of us.

Crankster said...

You always exude such warmth, Hearts. Thanks!

Dan said...

And I love that you're out there Heart. I know I don't make it over here as often as I should, but I'm really glad you're here. Hugs.

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Crankster,

Well, nobody's poifect. It must be a New York thing.

Dan,

I'm glad you're here now!

Laura Stamps said...

What a fun blog! I'm glad I found it and intend to visit daily to see what you are posting.

Many faery hugs to you!

enigma4ever said...

I added you to my Sunday Round Up - I hope you don't mind....love your blog...

heartinsanfrancisco said...

Laura,

I'm glad, too, and very honored as you have been nominated for prizes I can only dream about.

Thank you for your visit.

Enigma,

I'm delighted, and have bookmarked your fine blog for easy reference, too.

Thanks for coming by.