tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post4410853011601211726..comments2023-09-26T04:56:13.105-07:00Comments on Guilty With An Explanation: Where Have All the Flowers Gone?heartinsanfranciscohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-26866746678057226622007-08-29T23:54:00.000-07:002007-08-29T23:54:00.000-07:00Monty,I am complimented that you think so. Unless...Monty,<BR/><BR/>I am complimented that you think so. <BR/>Unless you're just being polite...?heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-64592491309879552422007-08-29T22:03:00.000-07:002007-08-29T22:03:00.000-07:00One of the best and most important posts I have re...One of the best and most important posts I have read.The CEOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02132181032041726978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-37448734052848762562007-08-29T19:03:00.000-07:002007-08-29T19:03:00.000-07:00Irrelephant,I'm over it now. In fact, every time ...Irrelephant,<BR/><BR/>I'm over it now. In fact, every time I go back to Safeway, I look for the guy so I can mess with his head by smiling.<BR/><BR/>Most people are kind and most decent to each other, and even polite sometimes.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for visiting here, and for your encouragement.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-80710126465647940982007-08-29T18:47:00.000-07:002007-08-29T18:47:00.000-07:00Heart, I wandered in here quite by random happenst...Heart, I wandered in here quite by random happenstance, and read...wow. You got attacked (in a manner of speaking) by a stranger in the market. I was just talking with another blog friend about the loss of such simple, common things as gentlemanly behaviour, politeness, and just in general being decent to other people, and how, sadly, we're seeing less and less of it, and here you are, living proof.<BR/><BR/>I hope the sting from this particular bite has long since worn off. And know that there are still a few people in the world who are fighting tooth and nail (and with manners firmly in place) against the death of the flower of gentility and decent behaviour.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-91745046766594080632007-08-28T11:29:00.000-07:002007-08-28T11:29:00.000-07:00Baffle,So many assholes, so little time...Miserabl...Baffle,<BR/><BR/>So many assholes, so little time...<BR/><BR/>Miserable people offer our greatest challenges to be otherwise because bad temper is contagious unless we're very careful. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for coming by. I followed your link and have bookmarked your great blog so I can read it often.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-45226074476818218652007-08-28T09:53:00.000-07:002007-08-28T09:53:00.000-07:00What's difficult (for me) when this kind of thing ...What's difficult (for me) when this kind of thing happens is avoiding getting caught up in the other person's private hell. That which seems to provide justification to them for such hateful behaviour. <BR/>A 'get the other guy/gal before he/she gets you' mentality. <BR/><BR/>In your place, my own swept-under-the-rug rage and misery buttons would certainly have been pushed. Each day offers new challenges and opportunities for me to over ride my deep-seated feelings of sadness, hurt and resentment.<BR/><BR/>It sure can be a struggle to coexist in harmony with my fellow beings...<BR/><BR/>...more so if they happen to walk out the door in the morning 'asshole foot' first.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with working through this 'bad moment'. Getting support via blogging and all the decent folk out there really does help, doesn't it?<BR/><BR/>You take good care, now.bafflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17386819588355171736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-44858484993846950372007-08-24T11:22:00.000-07:002007-08-24T11:22:00.000-07:00Walking man,Yeah, it was pretty special. A lot of ...Walking man,<BR/><BR/>Yeah, it was pretty special. A lot of bad behavior gets excused by our assumptions that someone is unhappy, and therefore should not be expected to take responsibility for himself.<BR/><BR/>The next logical conclusion is widespread anarchy because nearly everyone is unhappy about something.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your visit.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-5922491841339085052007-08-24T03:14:00.000-07:002007-08-24T03:14:00.000-07:00How dare you mutter the word Asshole towards this ...How dare you mutter the word Asshole towards this outstanding representation of the new humanity?<BR/><BR/>Better to fall to the floor cry, holler for the EMS and sue both the wonderful human who called you a bitch then played dueling carts, and the store for injury. that is by the way assault and reckless endangerment.<BR/><BR/>Better than Glocking his ass in front of a store full of witnesses and creating a panic among the blind who did not nor would have intervened.<BR/><BR/>This is the new world order, exacerbated by the society we allow to entertain us. Get used to it.the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-45108742175650958082007-08-23T14:56:00.000-07:002007-08-23T14:56:00.000-07:00Josie,Sometimes we just have to remind ourselves t...Josie,<BR/><BR/>Sometimes we just have to remind ourselves that doing good is its own reward. But what shockingly bad manners of that person not to even thank you for your trouble and expense. It makes me shake my head.<BR/><BR/>Odat,<BR/><BR/>Ohhh, thank you so much!! I didn't know that one existed. Oh boy, oh boy, this is my lucky day.<BR/><BR/>Heart of Darkness,<BR/><BR/>Kindness never goes out of style, but it's getting into the rare and hard to find category lately.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your visit!<BR/><BR/>Furious,<BR/><BR/>You're so right, Calvin. I've been asking for one forever, and even promised to play with it outside, but no-o. No flame thrower has come my way yet. What am I doing wrong?<BR/><BR/>Ren.kat,<BR/><BR/>Oh, good. I was wondering what to make for dinner tonight -- braised brains, after I worship the sun, of course.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for coming by our little nuthouse.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-14162587611541402322007-08-23T12:49:00.000-07:002007-08-23T12:49:00.000-07:00Your long ago is pretty different from the long ag...Your long ago is pretty different from the long ago I learned about in history class, the one in which they worshiped the sun and ate each other's brains, the more recent ago when hangings were like the Macy's Day parade. Since I feel like you do- maybe you could find the map with directions to that particular long ago and share.ren powell https://www.blogger.com/profile/15593358547415514500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-91394450945651245302007-08-23T08:31:00.000-07:002007-08-23T08:31:00.000-07:00Once again, see if we all had flame-throwers this ...Once again, see if we all had flame-throwers this stuff would never happen.furiousBallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158133736035219163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-9504775838983650402007-08-23T07:26:00.000-07:002007-08-23T07:26:00.000-07:00You are completely right - instead of evolving, we...You are completely right - instead of evolving, we are going down the toilet. Crown of the creation my ass!<BR/><BR/>Would it hurt people to be a little kinder towards one another??? *sigh*Dizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06405889448901042848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-25546798225964390692007-08-23T02:13:00.000-07:002007-08-23T02:13:00.000-07:00Come on over and pick up a present!PeaceCome on over and pick up a present!<BR/>PeaceOdathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03973602431527460287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-83864440699461483062007-08-22T20:45:00.000-07:002007-08-22T20:45:00.000-07:00Hearts, I think we have forgotten how to live in c...Hearts, I think we have forgotten how to live in communities where we actually care about each other. We have all become disconnected. Many folks interact more with their TV sets than they do with real people. We have lost our humanity, in many respects. I found a cell phone on the ground a few weeks ago. I left messages at the person's place of business, at their home and by e-mail to make arrangements to return the phone. The individuals received all the messages, but just couldn't be bothered getting back to me until it was finally "convenient" for them, which they finally did. I sent the phone to their home via courier, and they never called to thank me, or to acknowledge they received it. BTW, the guy was a lawyer. He should have known better. Go figure...Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06979114933441527890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-14381929534834278442007-08-22T20:19:00.000-07:002007-08-22T20:19:00.000-07:00Molly,I think that most dogs are ambassadors of su...Molly,<BR/><BR/>I think that most dogs are ambassadors of sunshine, and I am more than willing to learn from them as long as I don't have to sniff anybody's butt on meeting.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-5253994730474629122007-08-22T19:47:00.000-07:002007-08-22T19:47:00.000-07:00We can learn a lot from dogs. If we all wagged our...We can learn a lot from dogs. If we all wagged our tails more when we met, instead of passing by without so much as "hello"; if we didn't hold grudges and jealously nurse them to keep whatever, real or imagined, insults alive; if we all took the time to run and jump and play more; wouldn't we all be a lot happier? Sorry you had the misfortune to run into such a cur.....mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797484583400519909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-34285128198256105792007-08-22T18:05:00.000-07:002007-08-22T18:05:00.000-07:00Sweet Pea,Yeah. But I think we're all capable of b...Sweet Pea,<BR/><BR/>Yeah. But I think we're all capable of bad behavior now and then. Maybe he felt worse about it than I did afterward.<BR/><BR/>Eastcoaster,<BR/><BR/>That's nice. I like to be pleasantly surprised by people in that way.<BR/><BR/>And it's really fine when fast food establishments have doormen.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-30468959578742927392007-08-22T14:40:00.000-07:002007-08-22T14:40:00.000-07:00A few years ago, I volunteered to staff a Salvatio...A few years ago, I volunteered to staff a Salvation Army collection kettle at the local mall.<BR/><BR/>It was quite surprising to see the nice-looking, well-dressed people who walked right on by, avoiding eye-contact -- and the tough, punkish-looking types who dropped money in.<BR/><BR/>Many years ago, I had taken my Sweetie somewhere and we stopped at a fast food place on the way home. A very drunk, rough-looking guy was sitting on the curb near the door. He got up as we got near him and looked at us and of course my hackles went up and I moved to get between him and my Sweetie.<BR/><BR/>He walked past me and held the door open for Her.Eastcoastdwellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18140530743668908554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-81036706666347560622007-08-22T12:53:00.000-07:002007-08-22T12:53:00.000-07:00What a jerk.What a jerk.LittlePeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17890731735785145148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-80209939927853196242007-08-22T12:33:00.000-07:002007-08-22T12:33:00.000-07:00Scarlett,That's a wonderful story. Thanks so much...Scarlett,<BR/><BR/>That's a wonderful story. Thanks so much for sharing it here.<BR/><BR/>I think that bikers get a bad rap. Years ago, when I adopted my wolf through the Humane Society in MA, she had been rescued from her abusive first owner by a guy who was a Pagan. He called the Society, which advertised in the paper. When I agreed to adopt her, sight unseen, he brought her to my house.<BR/><BR/>In Nashville, I once saw a scary-looking guy, tattoos, bad-ass expression, the whole classic biker image, park his Harley next to a lake in the park where I was eating on my lunch break. He strode to the edge of the water, then produced a large bag of bread crumbs and fed the ducks while speaking sweetly to them.<BR/><BR/>Judging books by covers comes to mind here.<BR/><BR/>Atavist,<BR/><BR/>Rudeness abounds, but also, I think that kindness does. It's just less obvious.<BR/><BR/>I'm going to get even with him if I ever see him again. I'm going to smile and greet him like a friend. He won't know what to do because I'm sure he'll remember me as well.<BR/><BR/>That way, we'll both get another chance not to hate each other.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-37425114303545659852007-08-22T12:15:00.000-07:002007-08-22T12:15:00.000-07:00We are increasingly an uncivil society. Actions t...We are increasingly an uncivil society. Actions that should beget punishment don't. Parents who should teach manners and responsibility don't. And so, sadly, we get what we deserve in return for our inaction.<BR/><BR/>Very sad. I have seen similar examples of rudeness and obnoxious behaviour, and wonder where this is all going to end.The Atavisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12529157597486952484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-52246333548808855842007-08-22T12:14:00.000-07:002007-08-22T12:14:00.000-07:00Hearts, Sometimes I think we are digressing to the...Hearts, <BR/><BR/>Sometimes I think we are digressing to the dark ages, but then something happens, someone comes along and reminds me that humans don't always give their worst, even when they can.<BR/><BR/>I got a call the other day from a 'biker guy' who'd found a wallet and wanted to return it to the owner. "Everything is there, his whole life is in it." the biker told me. "I just want to get it back to him, tell him not to cancel anything, I'll even overnight it to him." He was legit, and Mr. Lost his life got it back just as he'd lost it.<BR/><BR/>I was so taken by surprise... so relieved that there are still truly good people out there, friends masquerading as strangers.<BR/><BR/>I hope that your hurts heal, and that your heart finds some kindness today.<BR/><BR/>Big hugs.<BR/><BR/>Scarlett & ViaggiatoreWanderlust Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551514192060606454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-9084050940129865042007-08-22T10:30:00.000-07:002007-08-22T10:30:00.000-07:00David,That's a great quote! For all I know, he fe...David,<BR/><BR/>That's a great quote! <BR/><BR/>For all I know, he felt terrible afterward. Sadly, I have learned that when I behave badly, the effects hang over me far longer than when I do something nice.<BR/><BR/>Chani,<BR/><BR/>Nothing there, but several others came in during the night.<BR/><BR/>I'll write to you and see if you get it.<BR/><BR/>Voyager,<BR/><BR/>I really believe that most people are still polite when they're not in their cars.<BR/><BR/>It WAS nice, indeed, that a teenager offered you his seat.<BR/><BR/>Mara,<BR/><BR/>Wow! That driver was quite boorish. I'm sorry that happened to you.<BR/><BR/>Throw away those shoes!<BR/><BR/>You did help. I feel so much better now.<BR/><BR/>Christina,<BR/><BR/>Maybe all the nice ones get snapped up by Walmart.<BR/><BR/>It's getting harder all the time to find a sweet little old lady or a kindly old gent.<BR/><BR/>Now you've made me wonder if I COULD have kicked his ass... <BR/><BR/>Maybe.<BR/><BR/>Wng,<BR/><BR/>When I was raising my children, the thought of them often kept me out of trouble, too.<BR/><BR/>And I agree: Fake manners are still much better than none at all.<BR/><BR/>Thinker,<BR/><BR/>Such pretense works for me, especially if it means that I won't get beat up on.<BR/><BR/>I have a plan. If I ever see him again (and I WILL recognize him,) I will smile and say "Hi!" <BR/><BR/>It could change his life, and mine.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-39995802123518247932007-08-22T09:07:00.000-07:002007-08-22T09:07:00.000-07:00What a rude man. I'm really sorry that that happen...What a rude man. I'm really sorry that that happened to you.<BR/><BR/>I'd rather see people pretending to care about one another than not caring at all.thethinkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02246687154473607332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-73228630394640831862007-08-22T06:16:00.000-07:002007-08-22T06:16:00.000-07:00There are so many times during the day when I have...There are so many times during the day when I have to take a second and breathe just to keep from saying or doing something I know I'll regret later. One good thing about growing up in the South, you learn how to fake a smile and slide through on manners. Still, I find the more I spread those smiles around, the more real they become. It doesn't always work, but it's always worth a try. <BR/>Having a picture of the most adorable child in the universe as the backdrop on my cell phone doesn't hurt either!Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00900726730265994177noreply@blogger.com