tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post430058232141445102..comments2023-09-26T04:56:13.105-07:00Comments on Guilty With An Explanation: When Support Groups Go Badheartinsanfranciscohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-4914667117172624392009-03-27T17:08:00.000-07:002009-03-27T17:08:00.000-07:00Scarlett,You guys are absolutely the best support ...Scarlett,<BR/><BR/>You guys are absolutely the best support group anyone could have!<BR/><BR/>Thank you.<BR/><BR/>I love you, too.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-23146335738439559742009-03-27T13:43:00.000-07:002009-03-27T13:43:00.000-07:00You're definitely on to something, except I...You're definitely on to something, except I'd like to nudge you just a bit and remind you that you have a pretty strong and devoted support group here, as well.<BR/><BR/>We love you, lady.<BR/><BR/>All pets & animals allowed.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Scarlett & ViaggiatoreWanderlust Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551514192060606454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-25967327965560568612009-03-23T18:20:00.000-07:002009-03-23T18:20:00.000-07:00Van,I would love to hear you jam together ~with th...Van,<BR/><BR/>I would love to hear you jam together ~with the amps cranking.<BR/><BR/>Sister,<BR/><BR/>That would have been my instinct, too, to grieve alone, in private. <BR/><BR/>The alleged purpose of support groups for diseases is the dissemination of helpful information, but neither of them seems to be doing much of that.<BR/><BR/>Meno,<BR/><BR/>I think 99th is pushing it for Leslie, but the dog IS beautiful.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-68646492285669117282009-03-23T15:11:00.000-07:002009-03-23T15:11:00.000-07:00You must go back and tell Leslie that if it's inde...You must go back and tell Leslie that if it's indeed true that she is on the 100 Most Beautiful Women in San Francisco list, that she must come in at 99.<BR/><BR/>Just below your friend's dog.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-2207232233171874592009-03-23T15:07:00.000-07:002009-03-23T15:07:00.000-07:00I have never understood the concept of support gro...I have never understood the concept of support groups...of course, I have never been to one. It was suggested that I attend one after the loss of my daughter but I was afraid that it would just be a lot of people talking about their own losses and feeling really bad together. I was feeling bad enough all by myself. Something told me to just stay away from that concentration of grief.<BR/><BR/>I suppose that if people there really had positive things to share, it might be helpful.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03354299078292553141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-50875874169387012372009-03-23T14:40:00.000-07:002009-03-23T14:40:00.000-07:00"Shitty," he said as he idly thrummed his guitar. ..."Shitty," he said as he idly thrummed his guitar. "How are YOU?"<BR/><BR/>I love Flip, I bet he and I would be best buds if there wasn't a continent between us.furiousBallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158133736035219163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-33259707772269666822009-03-22T19:32:00.000-07:002009-03-22T19:32:00.000-07:00Citizen,We're really batting 1,000 on support grou...Citizen,<BR/><BR/>We're really batting 1,000 on support groups, aren't we?<BR/><BR/>I'm sure there's a message in this: If your tolerance for BS is limited, there is probably a better course to pursue.<BR/><BR/>Jocelyn,<BR/><BR/>Duluth shouldn't feel bad. (Don't Cry, Argentina..) San Francisco doesn't really have such a list either -- Leslie the Bigmouth Bass has a rich fantasy life.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-35020794445538937562009-03-22T19:20:00.000-07:002009-03-22T19:20:00.000-07:00Shared misery is the best support.Oh, and "I was l...Shared misery is the best support.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and "I was lost in wonder that there is a list of the 100 Most Beautiful Single Women in San Francisco, and that she is on it."--I have to admit I got a little derailed in your post when this first cropped up. In Duluth, I don't think we could come up with 100.<BR/><BR/>Or would feel the need to.Jocelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03227519811818290510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-69626927029327223602009-03-22T18:00:00.000-07:002009-03-22T18:00:00.000-07:00Wow, Flip;s group sounds like the antithesis of a ...Wow, Flip;s group sounds like the antithesis of a suport group, andyour had an unruly member who was not honoring the spirit of it being a group, rather than a one-woman show. No loss if you never go back to either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-63635914875164030382009-03-22T17:11:00.000-07:002009-03-22T17:11:00.000-07:00Gayle,Connecting with the natural world has alway...Gayle,<BR/><BR/>Connecting with the natural world has always been easier and more pleasant for me, too.<BR/><BR/>Donnetta,<BR/><BR/>Nothing would delight me more than to see people like Miss I'm So Beautiful silenced. <BR/><BR/>I've never been really convinced that misery loves company. I agree with your ideas on worthy distractions, and I also don't choose to define myself by this condition. <BR/><BR/>So lovely to see you here as I've enjoyed your comments on other sites for a long time.<BR/><BR/>Maria,<BR/><BR/>Yep, competitive belly aching. Their pains are badges of honor and the meeting is a coven of martyrs. <BR/><BR/>When you look at it that way, maybe not so much fun...heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-25101831455109292782009-03-22T16:47:00.000-07:002009-03-22T16:47:00.000-07:00I used to go to a pain management support group an...I used to go to a pain management support group and I swear, I always felt so much worse when I came out. Plus, it always seemed to be a one-up session. People were always telling each other things like, "Well, consider yourself lucky because you only need a walker. I had to sell my walker years ago to make a down payment on my wheel chair..."<BR/><BR/>I haven't gone in years...Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049511202014141182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-66188628372164601562009-03-22T11:40:00.000-07:002009-03-22T11:40:00.000-07:00Hello, Heart: Well, you've made a believer out of ...Hello, Heart: Well, you've made a believer out of me! I have been diagnosed with undifferentiated connective tissue disease and have thought about support groups. Actually, I think maybe going to see a good movie or call up a best friend might work just as well. And how could someone debark a dog? That sounds cruel. Maybe someone needs to debark Miss Beautiful! DDonnettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14831771508607746472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-46079899899094486262009-03-22T08:08:00.000-07:002009-03-22T08:08:00.000-07:00Good for you! I have a hard time connecting with ...Good for you! I have a hard time connecting with self-absorbed strangers, too. Not sure if that's because I'm so self-absorbed myself but I'd rather take a walk in the sunshine.gbchangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04233263656325863173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-21266943535551061772009-03-21T23:44:00.000-07:002009-03-21T23:44:00.000-07:00Rise,Yes, ego is surely one of the Deadly Sins. S...Rise,<BR/><BR/>Yes, ego is surely one of the Deadly Sins. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes I think that humans are my least favorite species. Only sometimes.<BR/><BR/>KvAtch,<BR/><BR/>Shouldn't that be an "e"?<BR/><BR/>I agree that therapy often benefits the therapist more than the therapee. Luckily, you found a way to help yourself.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your visit. Your photos are extraordinary!<BR/><BR/>Pearl,<BR/><BR/>If only there were a way to debark those who need debarking and send them to the Land of Lost Larynxes. Maybe we could start a petition. <BR/><BR/>There is no list. Along with everything else, Leslie lied.<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad you came by. Please come back!<BR/><BR/>Claudia,<BR/><BR/>You've always been a marvelous support system. If it ain't broke...<BR/><BR/>I think some people get so caught up in the image of themselves as helpers that they forget to help. And some are so obnoxious that you can't muster the desire to care about their problems.<BR/><BR/>When I find myself pondering that the fibro meeting took two hours out of my life that I'll never get back, it's time to part ways.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-72088859959344771972009-03-21T19:57:00.000-07:002009-03-21T19:57:00.000-07:00I wish you were joking. I wish I could tell you th...I wish you were joking. I wish I could tell you that this type of thing never happened or only happened to you but.... I've seen this and worse. <BR/><BR/>Sigh.<BR/><BR/>((hug)) If I can help at all, I am here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-79787619831764660562009-03-21T16:58:00.000-07:002009-03-21T16:58:00.000-07:00I like the idea of de-barking some people... I wo...I like the idea of de-barking some people... I wonder if cases could be made, if there is a commitment process and what said process is. <BR/><BR/>:-)<BR/><BR/>Googled 100 most beautiful san fran and found nothing but you. Nice! <BR/><BR/>PearlPearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-45886469002266269132009-03-21T12:22:00.000-07:002009-03-21T12:22:00.000-07:00I tried therapy once...for about 3 visits. When i...I tried therapy once...for about 3 visits. When it became clear that a long term business relationship (with me on the paying end) rather than results was the fairly obvious point of the process, I quit...and felt a whole lot better afterward.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-4343907861961383272009-03-21T11:50:00.000-07:002009-03-21T11:50:00.000-07:00Sometimes egos can be such a pain in the ass .... ...Sometimes egos can be such a pain in the ass .... Seems like you and Flip have a good thing going ... all it takes is to really care enough to ask? Absolutely loved your post on ridiculous laws ... laughed my way through it ... Humans are funny creatures.riseoutofmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14900369522350465257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-4426988709076361832009-03-21T11:28:00.000-07:002009-03-21T11:28:00.000-07:00Warts,Thank you so much! This really means a lot, ...Warts,<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much! This really means a lot, but I stopped posting awards in my sidebar because the last time I did, I lost my entire blog in html hell and had to rebuild it. It was a really bad experience.<BR/><BR/>I am absolutely thrilled to be one of the first blogs you read in the morning, and I'll try to post more often to make it worth your while.<BR/><BR/>Liz,<BR/><BR/>I am beaming with delight at the thought of Carly-the-dog biting Homegirl. Hell, I would have bitten her myself if I'd thought of it. Where were you when I needed you? <BR/><BR/>I totally agree about debarking dogs. That's right up there with declawing cats, neither of which I would ever do. <BR/><BR/>Have a wonderful time in San Francisco. Dress warm - it's rainy and windy today, turning cold tomorrow, especially for someone used to the perfect climate of L.A.<BR/><BR/>Chani,<BR/><BR/>Flip is right that they are mostly bitch sessions. The fibro group always passed around information about drugs and drug trials which I tuned out because I dislike drugs, and alternative treatments like acupuncture, which I do like. But bikini waxes are a far cry from that. Thank God Leslie didn't do show-and-tell, probably because we ran out of time.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-53581005588749844082009-03-21T07:32:00.000-07:002009-03-21T07:32:00.000-07:00Ugh! People like that are the ones who prompted th...Ugh! People like that are the ones who prompted the old saying "a turd in the punchbowl". <BR/><BR/>In general, I'm not in favor of support groups unless they're informational/educational. Too many people use them as excuses to stay stuck. <BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>~*thailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-71004411077856167282009-03-21T02:23:00.000-07:002009-03-21T02:23:00.000-07:00Good grief, how the heck does somebody de-bark the...Good grief, how the heck does somebody de-bark their dog? I mean, it's a dog! It's supposed to bark! <BR/><BR/>If only the dog could have somehow nipped homegirl, that would have been priceless.<BR/><BR/>I am coming up to your city tomorrow. It'll be nice knowing I'll be in the same place as the REAL most beautiful lady in SF!Liz Dwyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794296990587989214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-60218934026097836292009-03-20T21:53:00.000-07:002009-03-20T21:53:00.000-07:00I forgot to mention that there's an award for you ...I forgot to mention that there's an award for you over here:<BR/><BR/>http://annecdotally.blogspot.com/2009/03/and-winnah-is.html<BR/><BR/>I know some don't care to participate in these bloggy award things. No worries if that's the case.Warty Mammalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07942793134631438689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-6019720850125800082009-03-20T16:50:00.000-07:002009-03-20T16:50:00.000-07:00Wisdom,No, sometimes the comments are pretty shall...Wisdom,<BR/><BR/>No, sometimes the comments are pretty shallow. It all depends. <BR/><BR/>But when it's deep, the policy is BYOS. (Bring Your Own Shovel - or Shit. Whatever works for you.)<BR/><BR/>:)heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-44230590411283823812009-03-20T16:45:00.000-07:002009-03-20T16:45:00.000-07:00I'm kind of a newbie, does it always get this deep...I'm kind of a newbie, does it always get this deep in here?<BR/><BR/>You might have to start furnishing shovels for your comments section.<BR/><BR/>;)Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00652718092147177168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29674249.post-32712565563137409732009-03-20T16:19:00.000-07:002009-03-20T16:19:00.000-07:00CJ,I am humbled. I am humbled by your phenomenal ...CJ,<BR/><BR/>I am humbled. I am humbled by your phenomenal beauty and your dazzling humility.<BR/><BR/>It is impossible to imagine a more worthwhile cause on which to expend your phenomenally dazzling energy than the Most Beautiful list so that women like Leslie can aspire to it. Your generosity brings tears to my eyes, which are green and of course, beautiful. <BR/><BR/>(I am ever humble, too.)heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.com